The Impact of Positive Parenting Style

Parenting Styles

Have you considered whether your parenting style is better suited to yesterday than to preparing your child for the twenty-first century?

Your parenting style is key to raising responsible children. Being a good parent, you need to know skills to meet the challenge of good parenting.

When raising your children, you are actually mentoring and grooming them through formal and informal education. You become their role models. You are the initial powerful influence in their lives in their formative years.

 Positive Parenting Style

* Eliminate the need for spanking, time-outs and grounding

* Discipline to influence and guide good behavior

* Effective techniques that make "Temper Tantrums" a thing of the past

* Guide children to be cooperative, responsible and happy

* Create a positive and loving relationship with your children

* Raise children, to be responsible adults able to cope in the world

One of the best known theories of parenting style was developed by Diana Baumrind a developmental psychologist, a leading expert in parenting. She proposed that parents fall into one of three categories:

Authoritarian -telling their children exactly what to do

Permissive - allowing their children to do whatever they wish

Assertive - Democratic  - providing rules and guidance without being overbearing

Three main categories of parenting styles :  

Permissive, Authoritarian , Assertive - Democratic 

Are you an Authoritarian Parent?

This style of parenting has been identified as the "drill sergeant" approach. Commanding the child what to do and what not to do, rules are clear and unbending. Misbehavior is severely punished.

Predominant for most of authoritarian parenting is effective in societies experiencing little change and accepting one way to do things. 

The parent instructs the child on each act. The child learns by imitating. This style mismatches a rapidly  changing society which values choice and innovation.

Characteristics of authoritarian parenting

Authoritarian parents have high expectations of their children and have very strict rules that they expect to be followed unconditionally. This parenting style often utilize punishment rather than discipline.

* Value placed on obedience. Have strict rules and expectations.

* Value placed on manners.

* Very demanding, but not responsive

* Don't give children choices or options.

* Rather inflexible approach to life

* Don't express much warmth or nurturing.

 * Utilize punishments with little or no explanation.

The Children of Authoritarian Parents

The effects of authoritarian parenting styles have been associated with a variety of child outcomes including social skills and academic performance

* Some children display more aggressive behavior outside the home.

* Others may act fearful or overly shy around others.

* Often have lower self-esteem.

* Have difficulty in social situations.

Are you a  Permissive  Parent?

Permissive parenting is sometimes known as indulgent parenting. This style of parenting make relatively few demands upon their children.

They take a "hands-off" approach, allowing children to learn  from the consequences of their actions.

Misbehavior is usually ignored.  Without clear limits, children get confused, feel insecure, and can make poor choices.

Characteristics of Permissive Style of Parenting

* Avoid punishing the children.

* Have few house rules or standards of behavior

* Few demands relating to chores.

* Child regulates own activities.

* Reason with child but rarely apply parent power.

* When there are rules, they are often very inconsistent

* Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent.

* May use toys, gifts and food as a means to get children to behave

Children raised by Permissive Parents

The effects of permissive parenting

* Lack self-discipline

* Sometimes have poor social skills

* May be self-involved and demanding

* May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance

Are you an Assertive-Democratic Parent?  

Assertive- democratic parenting is probably the most balance approach to raising children as it sits somewhere in the middle of permissive and authoritarian parenting styles.

In an ideal world, this would likely be the most favoured method of parenting.  Parents who give children lots of practice in making choices and guide them to see the consequences of  those choices. 

Children raised by this style learn to accept responsibility make wiser choices. They can cope with change and are better equipped to succeed in work-force which relies on cooperative problem-solving.

Children raised by Assertive- Democratic Parents

Assertive Democratic parenting produces children who are generally well balanced and able to cope with situations well.

The effects of assertive-democratic parents

* Children have secure social life and an ability to communicate

* Children help around the house with domestic chores.

* Children have good behavior 

* Children demonstrate a certain level of responsibility

* Children are able to cope well and thrive in any social setting

* Children have an interest and curiosity in life

 To your parenting success

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